I think it’s a good thing to move place once in a while. The reason that we are moving at all is that we have outgrown something and we need to find a place that fits the new us better. We will grow into the new place and eventually outgrow it, too. Sometimes we stay in a place we’ve outgrown and tear it apart and redo it. It’s still a new place even it if sits on the same foundation it was on before.
Growth is inevitable if we are alive. It signals that we are ready for a new adventure. A new way of being in the world. During the ‘move’ or ‘redo’ process we get rid of things that we no longer use or even value. Sometimes these things bring up great memories, but ones we are finished with. Time to make space for new experiences. Build new memories. Trust that life has more wonderful things in store for us.
As I write this I thought about someone who is a hoarder. Like everyone else they have a right to the kind of life they want. But I can’t help but think they cannot let go of the past. So how do they make room for the ‘new?’ And what is it like to live permanently in the past?
To me, letting go of the past simply means that we experienced things and either enjoyed them or suffered through them, but that was then. Life has so much more to offer. We never run out of adventures, fun, new experiences. Each episode helps us grow and understand ourselves and life and, therefore, others. So, in truth, every adventure is a way for us to be more. It’s like a school that’s really fun. If we approach life as adventure it changes how we assess what happens for us. It moves us out of the victim completely. It also allows us to process things that are difficult in a different way. It makes it less personal and more of something to understand. Admittedly, it’s a very ‘grown up’ way of looking at the world. And, it’s something we probably can’t do all of the time. But we can teach ourselves to look at things this way.
The other things this viewpoint does is to get rid of judgments about ourselves or others. How can you judge someone who is going through an experience in order to grow? It stops us from putting people into categories – race, gender, class, financial bracket. They are just people choosing various adventures. This viewpoint is the great equalizer. We are all the same, although our specific experience may be different. But it’s just an experience that’s all. And more good news- we can permanently stop judging ourselves. We are simply going through something, an experience.
My best to you in your new adventure. Whatever it may be enjoy it all.
Dianne, Destiny Coach