A friend suggested that since my life was in her words - amazing, I should write my life story. I‘m in a place right now where I have some time to actually do that. So I began. What I learned was that as I look back over my life I’ve had some really wonderful experiences. Looking back now I can appreciate and enjoy so many special moments. With distance everything looks different. The second time around I can distill the joy and leave out any of the angst that might have been going on in real time.
I also have such an appreciation for my life and everything I’ve been through. More than that I now look at myself differently. I see things in my life that I had never seen before. And I also see things in myself that I completely overlooked. I dismiss so much about myself that was worth noticing. The other impetus came from other friends who began to tell me how they saw me. They saw things I missed completely. I really thank them for that. One of the most wonderful things any one can do for another is to reflect how they see them. Its very validating. That’s why intimate relationships are so important. In them we are known. there is a deep desire in all humans to be known. We express it in different ways. Some of us want to be known without doing the work of letting ourselves be vulnerable. But even in those cases the desire is there.
So, my deep thanks to the three people who did that for me. Recently.
I’m writing all of this to encourage you to do the same thing. As you write your life you will see how amazing you are. You will see your courage and how hard you have worked to be where you are today. You will see talents and gifts you took for granted. And, you will be able to appreciate who you are. Also, when we support, appreciate and value ourselves our lives change radically. So, the added benefit will be a better life all the way around.
I have some suggestions for how to do it. Don’t make it a big project Write little bits at a time. - maybe one scene at a time Don’t judge what you write. Just let it come Don’t try to make it into a story. Let it be what it is. Don’t try to do it sequentially. Just write what comes to you. Don’t try to be accurate. Write it as it comes Don’t try to be humble. Be proud of yourself. Let yourself enjoy who you are. Bring this new idea of yourself into your business and your whole life. Use this new concept of you to know you deserve the best and don’t settle for less. Don’t write it to be read. This is just for you, That way you don’t have to be restricted.
If you also encourage your friends to do the same it will have the affect that you will be surrounded by people who value themselves and they will be more open and more appreciative of everyone around them. Could stat the most wonderful kind of revolution.
Enjoy getting to know you. It will be the most powerful and wonderful relationship in your life and it will transform your life for the better in ways you can't imagine.