I remember the first time I heard someone say “turn lemons into lemonade” urging someone going through something pretty bad to find a way to make it okay.
I remember saying something sarcastic like “Sure!” feeling that it was an impossible request. But as I’ve experienced more of life I get it. When something hard happens you can say and feel how much it sucks and focus on that or you can find some way to turn it around by finding the message in it. I’ve decided that finding the message is the way to go. When we change our focus possibilities and solutions appear. Things we were unable to see when we were in “this is awful “mode were hidden.
No matter what is going on there is something good that can come of it if we look for it. That means we have to stretch beyond our usual way of viewing the world and what happens in it. Even some of the things that go on in our world politically or when things don’t go well for our business there are messages for us about how to do things better. How to look for solutions instead of being stuck in the problem. And they are right there if we change our perspective.
Recently, I had something like that happen, (which is why I thought to write this.) It was unpleasant, yes. But when I really looked at it the message was it was time to move on. Time to do things differently. I had a choice– look at what was uncomfortable and stay upset or I could look deeper. Once I got the message the only thing I could feel was gratitude. It was something I hadn’t seen and now it was brought to my attention so I could do something about it. Now I knew what was in my best interest to do. Before the situation came up I was blissfully unaware. You can’t do something about things you don’t see. But when you see them you certainly can do what’s best.
When we look at the world that way no matter what happens it is for us and never against us. Even the hard stuff. We are here to learn and grow and evolve. Everything in life helps us to do that. So, I’m suggesting the next time something in your life is difficult take the time to look for what it is telling you to help you. It might take time to find it but I promise it is there. Look for the message meant to help you.
There is always a solution. It might not be the one you thought or expected but it is there. Life is for us. Always. So when things get tough find the message there meant to help you.
My best to you,