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It’s so easy to let something pull us off course. There’s the news, of course, our family and friends, the weather, holidays, relationship (lack of or too much), and that’s just the beginning. The list goes on.
The question becomes, how to deal with all of the above and stay, not only sane, but on track. To do that we have to have
1) a clear idea of who we are (as much as possible)
2) the kind of life we want
3) what we really need to feel fulfilled
4) an idea of the gifts we have to give to the world
5) some sense of purpose
When we can answer those things, it gives a touchstone. We can then ask-“Is what I’m thinking now helping me to be who I am and do what I want to do?” or “Is where my focus is now helping or hindering me from doing what I want to do?” or “Is what I’m doing right now moving me toward or away from what I want?”
I know this intimately because I have, in the past, been distracted by my surrounds, how people were behaving and how I was feeling about all of it. Not a good basis for going for what I want. But, somehow, I got there despite it. However, distraction is a drain on energy. It takes valuable resources we could use to create or follow through on something desired. There is something about a one-pointed focus that gets us there sooner and better. Some shining examples of people who have or had it – Steve Jobs, Mark Zukerberg, Bill Gates, Michael Jordan, Meryl Streep, you get the idea. Most of us go in and out of dedication to our goals, but when we stray we can feel it and then it’s time to get back there.
We are not all going to be in the news or celebrated by the world for something, though some will. Plus, we have seen how celebrity and notoriety can backfire. But each of our lives is important and on purpose, therefore, how we spend our time and energy matters. It’s important that we fulfill our goals and dreams. My thought is we all have something to give and it matters that we give it.
How do we deal with distraction then? We identify it as such and we give enough importance to our desires that we look at where our attention is and keep bringing it back to our goals, mission, dreams. It’s okay to know what’s in the news, what our family and friends are doing or not doing, what our surrounds are, etc., etc. But, no matter what, we have things to do in this world and that must be our main focus.
It’s been said that we are not afraid of failure but of our greatness and I think that’s true. It also comes from the fact that we’ve been taught we are not enough and what we want doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. But I posit we are enough and what we want does matter. I think every one of us is here on purpose and with purpose. Keep your focus on your dreams and let yourself shine, because when you do, you give what you came to this world to give.
Let’s see what ya’ got!
My very best to you and a Very Merry Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza
Dianne J. Shaver, M.A. Accountability Coach