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A New Look At Gratitude
Like everyone I’ve read all the books on gratitude and spoken about it. Lately, however, concepts that I’ve been talking about are becoming much more real. Gratitude is among them. When something good happens I always give thanks. Same with the amazing things. Often those things bring tears to my eyes and my heart opens. What I realized, though, is that it lasts for a day or two. Then I’m looking for the next thing I want or need to manifest. What that means is I’m not really grateful and that I haven’t understood what that word really means. What I have come to understand is that gratitude is about noticing and seeing everything as a blessing. With that realization I looked back on things in my life I have labeled as harmful and debilitating. As I reviewed them, I realized they were actually happening because I needed to focus on something I wasn’t seeing or understanding and they were affording me the opportunity to do just that.
That insight changed the past for me. It helped me to see things I had been labeling has horrible really weren’t. It made me realize that when good things happen to me I notice for a few moments and then it’s – “next?” That’s not understanding what gratitude is. Being grateful is much deeper and more profound. It is knowing to your core that you are loved, watched over and blessed. Every day there is an opportunity to experience it. It’s knowing that the Universe is on your side in every instance. Knowing that each experience is meant for our good, our understanding, our growth and our joy and living in that state.
Maybe you’ve noticed too, that lately, huge insights and profound understandings are there for us to grasp. Now, that’s something to be grateful for! It changes how we see the world, how we live each day. It changes the thoughts that we allow space in our minds and what we no longer will tolerate. It changes victim to blessed, underdog to winner, poor to abundant, confused to insightful.
We all are inundated with things to do, work to accomplish, deadlines to reach. But, each day, there needs to be time to reflect, to meditate, to be still and to listen to the deepest part of ourselves. That creates the space for insight to come and for us to understand what life is really about; what’s of true value and how we fit into it. I know that sounds as if I’m saying we will discover the secrets of the Universe. I don’t think we’ll ever understand it all because there is always more to understand, each level opens to another. But, we can perceive more deeply and that does change our experience of life. It makes it less confusing and confounding and it allows us to trust that all will be well. Especially, if we are open to seeing more profoundly what well-being is. Things are not always as they appear. It’s up to us to always look for the good in every situation because it is there. And to expect it. That opens the way to true gratitude and to living with awareness of it every day.
Good is meant for you. Success is meant for you. Joy is meant for you. Every day.
My best to you,
Dianne J. Shaver, M.A. Accountability Coach
Creatives 6 Steps To Success
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There is always a way. Sometimes it comes from something we’ve been working on. But, mostly it seems to come out of the blue. An idea just pops in, or someone who we never thought of offers to help with something we’ve been struggling with a long time. But, there are times that we feel that no one cares and we are in it all by ourselves. Something struck me today – that is the fact that each person who comes into our life or who is already there, is there for a very specific reason. I’m sure they don’t think of it and usually we don’t but if we stop and examine it, it becomes evident. I looked at the people in my life and there it was.
I suddenly have a person to help with marketing for my online course. Someone I met through a course I was taking, although we have not met in person and it’s an area I definitely need help with. A woman I’ve known since we both started our respective radio shows, suddenly invited me to host a show on her network out of British Columbia. I go to a Dollar store where everyone is so pleasant. And the person who gave me a hug one day when I was down, now is my official hugger every time I come it. She stops what she’s doing and gives great hugs and says I’m her sister. Can’t tell you how much that makes my day. I have a friend who, whatever I need he comes through, but he’s not a person I expect an emotional response from. I have another friend who I can let it all hang out with and say exactly what’s on my mind. I have a precious friend who feels like extended family and we are definitely related in some way. I have a friend from where I used to live and she is my link to that part of my life. I have friends who work at Trader Joe’s and every week we take time to catch up and share what’s going on. I have librarian friends at my favorite branch and we share about books we like. There are the people I joke with where I live and we come out of our respective doors at the same time.
Each of these people has a role in my life and they don’t really intersect. I used to get in trouble when I expected someone to fulfill more than one role. When I let go of that expectation and just observed what they fulfilled in my life I realized how blessed I am and how wonderful each of these people is and how they enrich my life. That’s not even saying how great they are as people in their own right. Right now I’m just looking at them through this specific lens, which stopped me from having expectations of anyone and instead, made me grateful for what they each contribute to making my life rich and full. It’s clear they are each there for a reason for me but also for them, and I play a role in each of these people’s lives. Who is in your life and how do they enrich it especially if you let go of expectations.
Enjoy everyone around you and let them give their gifts just as you give yours to them.
Blessings to you,
Creatives 6 Steps To Success online course
Accountability Coach to Creatives and Millennials
Choose A Path
Sometimes, it’s as simple as choosing a path to go down. Especially when you have no idea what to do next. We all do pretty well when we are doing what we know, but when we step outside of that we can become overwhelmed. Too many paths is often worse than too few. With too few you can usually figure something out. When everything is laid out before you like a banquet, which do you do first? Which is the right one? Which will bring the right outcome?
The truth is, there is no way to know until you do it. That being said, it’s what you bring to any endeavor that determines the outcome. There is no magic formula. It really isn’t a question of a “right” path, it’s a question of the energy, creativity and determination you bring to anything that decides what the outcome will be. In other words, things are neutral until you put yourself into the equation. You are what makes all the difference in anything. That’s why two people can do exactly the same thing and one succeeds and one doesn’t. It depended on the kind of energy that was brought to bear in each case.
While it might look as if the two people were doing exactly the same thing. They weren’t. There was an energetic difference. The one who didn’t succeed had a reservation about something which might not have been evident, but was operating, none-the-less. This kind of thing is very subtle and hard to pin down sometimes, but it’s always there. It might be an attitude that the project was too hard, or that the person felt they didn’t have the right skills or abilities to complete it. It might have been an old message of “not good enough” which surfaced once again. We often have old messages that come up at the very worst times. Or, seen another way, they keep coming up so we’ll change them and not keep them buried anymore. There is always a reason for everything and there is always a solution to everything. Those are often not the ones we see, but they are right there in front of us when we shift our perception.
That’s why we see examples of people overcoming incredible odds all the time. They are not anomalies, they were desperate and the only thing they could do is let go of whatever had been stopping them and just go for it. It was all or nothing for them and they chose all. That’s often what it takes to succeed. Sometimes there are huge stakes like staying alive sometimes there are much smaller stakes such as being embarrassed. Next time you have to step up if your life isn’t on the line, then what do you really have to lose?
You can do whatever you need or want to do.
My best to you,
Dianne J. Shaver, M.A. Creatives 6 Steps To Success
Online 6 week course Jan. 8, 2019
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