When did we begin to value the opinion of others over our own when it comes to our choices, behavior and how we live our life? Most of the time, we have no awareness it’s going on. We just feel upset by what someone said to us or something written about us. If we examined it, we would see the upset comes from giving someone else the power to decide what we should do and how we should behave. It doesn’t even make sense to let a stranger say what you should or shouldn’t do. Think about it.
A friend who was recently widowed wanted to accompany a brother in-law, who had just lost his wife, to a gravesite. She explained to him that someone else would have to ride in the car with them so there would be no appearance of impropriety. These folks are in their seventies, by the way.
No one knows what your life is like but you. No one knows what your path is in this life but you. No knows your experiences but you. So, without this pertinent information, it’s clear that no one outside of you can make any judgement on what you should or shouldn’t do.
It’s become so much a part of our culture that It’s hard to catch it as It’s going by. Valuing the opinion of others is the reason so much is hidden until an investigation is held. If we were didn’t worry about other people, we would behave better. If our actions fit who we were then subterfuge would not be necessary.
Society‘s rules change, all the time, which, right away lets you know how arbitrary those rules are. They don’t fit anyone, yet everyone tries to bend themselves around to embrace them, or at least the appearance of embracing them. When you come down to it, it’s all about appearance, and not what’s real. We have strayed so far away from ourselves that it seems easy to live by what others agree is right.
Listen to reality shows, call in talk shows. Everyone is judging everyone else. However, the only person that knows why they do some something is the one doing it. The only one responsible for their actions is the one acting. The moment we take responsibility for our life, we no longer have to worry about someone else’s rules.
I have heard the argument, if people could do anything they want, they would behave badly. What I’m seeing is people living under arbitrary rules already behave very badly. Freedom makes people take responsibility. Repression makes people plot in dark corners. Something to think about the next you tell someone else what they should do or someone does that to you.
Once again, you get to choose how you live your life. Just do your best, that’s all that’s required.
My best to you,
Dianne, Destiny Coach – now accepting 2 new clients