by Dianne J. Shaver, M.A.,
Why do some people succeed and others don't? Is it a complicated formula to success? Successful people have tunnel vision in the sense they never consider failure as an option. When presented with insurmountable odds they immediately look for the way around them. Think what it means if failure is not an option. They never even for a moment let any thoughts of giving up enter their minds.
They are disciplined in their thinking. They don't listen to the warnings that others give them or to any pronouncements of doom from the media, statistics, research results, etc. They stubbornly keep their eyes, their mind, their energy, their focus on what they want to accomplish.
A special breed? A certain kind of genius? Have they inherited that one important gene? Nope! They are focused and disciplined. Can anyone do what they do? YES!
EVERY time you have a thought of giving up or that what you want is impossible IMMEDIATELY- shift your focus to something that makes you feel good. When you shift your focus off the thing that's bothering you and instead focus on something you like immediately your spirits lift.
The second part is you DO NOT return your focus to the task at hand until you are feeling hopeful, happy and determined. Now return to your task and you will see solutions not seen before.
That's how simple it is. I know people are impressed with very difficult, complex solutions to their issues. However, truth is ALWAYS simple.
If you are up for it I want to issue you this challenge: For 10 days:
1) When you feel discouraged about what you want to achieve do the following:
a) Immediately stop doing what you were doing when you began to feel discouraged.
b) Have a list of things handy that you can focus on that make you feel good. (TIP: usually better NOT to focus on people because they can be a mixed bag. Maybe nature, your favorite food, music, etc.)
c) Do NOT return to your task until you feel hopeful, excited and energized.
d) Appreciate how you just took control of your thoughts and how successful you were.
e) Don't go for huge success. Focus on the small successes that add up to getting you where you want to go.
A caveat. To succeed our goals have to fit who we are. If you want to be at reality show hit or a mountain climber and these really don't fit who you are you will not succeed in doing them because it's not you. When what you want to accomplish fits you then you can and will succeed.